Depression and Self-Pity

To a person who has never experienced depression, it would probably be easy to say, “Why don’t you just get over it?” But to the one suffering from it, things don’t look that easy.

During the years that I struggled with depression, I felt like my heart was bleeding. As much as my husband and friends tried to help, they eventually had to tend to other things, leaving me feeling abandoned in my pain. If I were to paint a picture of what that felt like, it was like I had been in a horrible car accident and was bleeding profusely. My friends and family would come and go, but no one was able to extricate me from the car and get me into an ICU. What others could not see is that I had been in an accident of sorts, but it wasn’t physical. It was emotional and spiritual. It sounded like such a comfort to me to die and go to heaven where the pain would be over.

To the person suffering from depression, telling them to “just get over it” sounds just as cruel as telling the person who has just been in a car accident who is bleeding profusely to “just get over it.” He or she is sometimes “navel gazing” because he or she is just trying to figure out how to survive. Continue reading

Overcoming Depression Through Restoring Trust

Have you ever wondered why you were doing pretty good emotionally, and then another bout of depression hit you like a tidal wave? I want to share some troubleshooting tips that I learned during the years that I spent recovering from depression. If you find that this applies to you, you’ll be amazed at the instantaneous relief it can bring. Troubleshooting tip #1: Identify any areas where you may have felt, or perceived that God betrayed your trust.  When troubleshooting reasons for a bout of depression, this was THE MOST common reason.

If we have the PERCEPTION that God hasn’t come through for us, it can create deep anger in us.  This often is not on a conscious level. As “good Christians,” we don’t like to entertain such thoughts, so we tend to ignore them, suppress them, and pretend they aren’t there. Continue reading