Confronted By Someone Operating In the jezebel spirit?

How To Avoid The Ditches of Interpersonal Conflict

Ephesians 6:12 says, “We are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places.” Sometimes it sure looks like our struggle is with people though, doesn’t it? You may find yourself in a situation where the words are coming out of a person’s mouth. The conflict is real. Maybe you feel intimidated, dominated or threatened. Maybe you feel like someone is shoving their way into your lane. Or maybe you’re feeling like someone is trying to manipulate you through intimidation or neediness. If you’re a leader, maybe someone is pressuring you to abdicate your God-given authority and do things their way. Or maybe you feel the threat of humiliation if you don’t yield. It may be that someone is blowing right past the healthy boundaries you’ve expressed.

How do we respond in a God honoring way to the conflict we find yourselves in? Picture a road, with a ditch on either side. The healthy, God honoring response is the “high road.” People with an Elijah mindset walk on this road. They don’t put up with the spirit of jezebel in their relationships. The ditches are the places we need to avoid. Those who yield to the spirit of jezebel hang out in the ditches. Why two ditches? Because jezebel has two faces. One face looks fierce and intimidating, the other needy and rejected. Our flesh can be slippery, tending to veer toward one ditch or another. It takes a great deal of courage and intentionality to stay out of the ditches.
The two ditches:

The first ditch is where the sheepish and self-deprecating hang out. This is the picture of someone who shrinks beneath others when facing conflict. The person who does this agrees with the lie that he/she is inadequate to face the situation they are in. This person tends to yield to unholy domination by others. In order to avoid conflict, this person tends to abdicate their God-given position. If this person is a leader in the church, they veer toward abdicating authority to those who pressure them to do what they want. This could also be the housewife that allows someone to displace them in their own home. It might be the volunteer in the church who resigns their position when someone gets in their lane. It could also be the parent to allows someone to displace them in the disciplining of their child. It might be the husband who allows his wife to usurp his authority in the home. The person in this ditch tends to deal with their anger by stuffing it. This ditch is for those who either lack healthy boundaries or fail to enforce their boundaries when someone tromps on them. This person tends to struggle with feelings of insecurity, self-rejection and shame. Fear of man keeps the person in this ditch from rising up and doing the right thing. This person will often flee to isolated places in order to protect themselves or others. Those in this ditch tend toward having a “never enough” poverty mindset. This person needs to reestablish trust that God will protect and help them to stand against opposition.

This is the ditch that I tend to veer into. Where others appear brimming with confidence, I have to fight for it. In an attempt to choose humility, I have to be aware that I don’t end up agreeing with inadequacy. I have to be intentional about agreeing with the truth that whatever God calls me to do, He will enable me to do.

The second ditch is to Get bigger and bully. This person may have just transferred out of the sheepish and self-deprecating ditch. Exasperated with feeling under the domination of others, this person decides, “NEVER AGAIN!!!” In an instant, this person may jump in the opposite ditch and get “bigger” than the person they’re in conflict with. This person finds refuge in intimidating others. Their anger, once suppressed, either erupts like a volcano or leaks out sideways. He or she may act out their anger in passive aggressive, contempt filled ways. Instead of being kind and clear, the person in this ditch acts rejecting (outward or inward) and rude. Mean and muddy. This person is willing to get louder than their intimidator in order to be heard. This person will often be the source of friendly fire in the church. They will get in others’ lanes, often in an attempt to protect things from being done wrong. This person also struggles with fear of man, but it looks different than the person in the sheepish ditch. This person tends to come across prideful, domineering and threatening. This person may seek to manipulate through threat of punishment.

Climbing out of the ditch and taking the high road:

If we are going to stop yielding to the spirit of jezebel, we need to get out of the ditches and do this God’s way. So…what does that look like? If there was just one scripture that would show us how to do this, it would be Ephesians 4:15:

“…speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into Christ Himself, who is the head.”

Speak the truth in love.

Sounds simple enough in theory. It takes a lot of courage to live out. Two mistakes we’ve made as believers are:

1.) Thinking we can do just fine without being honest with one another. This mindset says, “I know better than God. I can have healthy relationships without truth.”

2.) The second mistake we make is delivering the truth in a mean package.

When we speak truth, it’s gonna go sideways if our motive is to vent our anger! This means that we need to forgive BEFORE we speak difficult truth to others. If we don’t, we’re likely to use truth as a hammer to beat others up with.

In our culture, we’ve been taught that it’s not ok to speak truth if it’s uncomfortable or might offend. But this is NOT God’s way. He loves us enough to tell us the truth. Leviticus 19:17-18 says,

You must not harbor hatred against your brother in your heart. Directly rebuke your neighbor, so that you will not incur guilt on account of him.” Do not seek revenge or bear a grudge against any of your people, but love your neighbor as yourself. I am the LORD.…”

Brothers and sisters, it takes courage to live like this. It is not our social norm. But we can do this! Let’s talk a little bit more about what it looks like to take the high road.

How do we go about getting out of the ditch and onto the high road?

Confront fear of man head on. Don’t let fear of critical judgment by others dictate your actions. If we’re going to get out of the ditches, we can’t let fear of disapproval or wounding stop us. This means doing the right thing even if we’re afraid others will blow up at us or feel rejected. Proverbs 29:25 says,

Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the LORD is kept safe.”

When I was beginning to break free from fear of man, the Lord led me to take on a project at a church. The current leader was being pushed out of her position of authority by people who held no legitimate authority in the church. They postured authority in this department that they didn’t have. When someone did something they didn’t like, they attempted to control through disapproval and intimidation. The thing was, I didn’t hold any position of authority in this area either. So I went to the person in charge of this ministry and asked for her permission. She gave it, but recommended that I speak to the elders as well. I did that, and again, was given permission to take on the project. As I carried it out, fear of man came against me with a vengeance. I literally shook as I carried out the work God had asked me to do. I did it afraid, but I did it. Even as I worked, I could feel the grip of fear losing its power over me. There was backlash, criticism toward me and anger. Those posturing authority made it clear that they weren’t happy with me. It wasn’t fun, but I survived! The next time I had to face fear of man, it was a little easier. And the next time, easier still.

Another way that we climb out of the ditch and onto the high road is by Speaking the truth in love. This takes vulnerability. Some have described vulnerability as, “into-me-you-see.” It’s also “I-See-You.” We live this out as we call it as we see it. Honest, kind and frank. The more we care about the relationship, the more difficult this is to do. It can feel really risky. If we’re going to take the high road, it means we have to value pleasing God above pleasing even those we love most.

Dealing with anger in a Biblical way is another way we climb out of the ditch. Ephesians 4:25-27 says,

“…having put away falsehood, let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another. Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil.”

Notice that anger in itself isn’t a sin? It’s what we do with it. It is possible to be angry and still do the right thing.

We take the high road when we act within proper chains of authority. There is covering and protection when we stay under LEGITIMATE authority. This means that when others posture authority that they don’t actually have, we don’t yield to them. If we’re going to operate within legitimate chains of authority, we need to know what they are. If you’re working in a church or organization, it’s wise to know who your up-line is, and who your subordinates are. It’s wise before taking on responsibility to ask, “Who’s in charge?” Once we know who our authority is, acting in honor toward them is how we stay out of the ditch.

We take the high road when we resist the temptation to quit or to flee from conflict. This means standing firm, even when we feel afraid or intimidated. 1 Peter 3:14 says,

“…Even if you should suffer for the sake of righteousness, you are blessed. AND DO NOT FEAR THEIR INTIMIDATION, AND DO NOT BE TROUBLED.”

Choose refuge in God rather than walls of fear. We all need a refuge when we feel threatened. God promises to be this for us! We are safe when we put our hope in Him to protect, not in ourselves. Psalm 91 says,

Because he loves me,” says the LORD, I will rescue him. I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name. He will call upon me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble, I will deliver him and honor him.”

Establish and enforce healthy boundaries. We can’t expect others to know what boundaries we need if we don’t express them. Once we do that, we need to stand firm. Those that choose to overstep our boundaries need to be reminded. If they persist, we need to stand firm.

We climb out of the ditches when we see ourselves and others through the lens of God’s word, not our feelings or perceptions. This means we don’t agree with puffed up images of ourselves (pride) or with self-deprecating images of ourselves. (another face of pride, as self is still the focus). Rather, we see ourselves as adequate and competent because God makes us so. It also means that we don’t see intimidating people as being bigger than they are. Isaiah 51 says,

I, even I, am He who comforts you. Why should you be afraid of mortal man, of a son of man who withers like grass? But you have forgotten the LORD, your Maker, who stretched out the heavens and laid the foundations of the earth. You live in terror all day long because of the fury of the oppressor who is bent on destruction. But where is the fury of the oppressor?…”

God is bigger than anyone we may have conflict with. He is our Defender, our Shield, our Help in times of trouble. We are safe in His very capable hands.

May you have the courage to face all of your relationships with truth and love,


It’s Time For The Broken Heart Of The Bride Of Christ To Be Healed

If I were to give you a word picture of what I am hearing the LORD say He wants to do in this season, this would be it. Jesus, our bridegroom sees the deep pain in the hearts of His bride. He sees the depression, the loneliness, the feelings of rejection that have chased her down for far too long. He wants to restore a sense of well-being to His Church. It’s time for emotional healing. He is offering healing to His Church. So how do we receive this healing?

The first step is to stop running. If there are things other than God that we’ve been turning to when in pain, we need to stop. It may not have even been anything sinful in itself.

Things we run to for refuge instead of God feel like they help us cope momentarily, but they will not bring lasting healing. It’s time to step into God’s presence when we’re hurting. We can use the emotional pain as a type of catalyst, ushering us into intimate time with Him. Psalm 62 says,

Find rest, O my soul, in God alone; my hope comes from him. He alone is my rock and my salvation; he is my fortress, I will not be shaken…Trust in him at all times, O people; pour out your hearts to him, for God is our refuge.”

Our soul includes our mind and our emotions. As we put our hope in God, we will find our emotions and our mind able to return to a place of rest. This looks like a cessation of warfare and turmoil. It’s in this place that we’re able to experience the fruits of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, etc. Psalm 34 says,

The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them; he delivers them from all their troubles. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”

The next step to receiving healing for our heart is to talk to God about the pain. This takes honestly admitting what we’re feeling. Even if what we’re feeling isn’t pretty, intimacy requires talking about what’s in our hearts. Often, our gut instinct is to vent to people, but God alone needs to be the foundation for emotional healing. He may use others to speak into our lives, but first, let’s bring God into the equation. When we ask Him to orchestrate our healing, He will! He will guide us and help us.

I remember one time when I recognized that my heart needed healing. I seemed to be at an impasse. I knew my heart needed healing, but I didn’t know how to get there. I began to pray that God would orchestrate it. He answered that prayer. He brought someone alongside me to speak into my life. Someone that God knew was equipped to minister to me. God alone knew who that someone needed to be. He is more than willing to provide WHATEVER is needed for the healing of our hearts.

The 3rd step we need to take is to agree with God’s word, not our feelings. This past week, rejection came knocking at my door. The temptation to agree with its lies felt relentless. I knew in my head that the Bible says believers are accepted. I kept quoting Romans 15:7:

Wherefore, accept one another, just as Christ also accepted us to the glory of God the Father.”

The majority of spiritual warfare is won by agreeing with God’s word even when our thoughts and our feelings tell us something different.

When we’re in the midst of spiritual warfare, sometimes lies look like truth. We may know the truth in our heads, but our hearts can’t “see” the truth. This is what I was going through this past week. My feelings were not in alignment with God’s word. I had to fight for the truth. James 4:7 says,

Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.”

Sometimes we make the mistake of thinking that this whole submitting and resisting things is supposed to happen quickly. Sometimes it does. Sometimes overcoming takes longer. When this happens, it doesn’t necessarily mean we’re doing anything wrong. It just means that we need to outlast the enemy. Ephesians 6 says,

Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of his might. Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil. For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places. Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand firm.

Spiritual warfare is like a wrestling match. The one who exerts the most pressure for the longest time wins.

We have been given authority over all the power of the enemy. We do not need to yield to a defeated foe. The mistake a lot of people make is believing the lie that if victory doesn’t come quickly, we don’t actually have authority over the enemy. Every time we resist the enemy, we’re getting stronger. Just like an athlete doing reps in the weight room, we’re building muscle. Every time we resist the lie that we have to live with depression, rejection, loneliness or brokenheartedness, we get stronger. The key is that we don’t give up.

You are loved by God. He sees the pain in your hearts. He has compassion for you and He has healing in store for you. I want to leave you with a song that speaks of the love of God. He is our faithful bridegroom. His intention is for the healing of your heart.

I hope this song about the healing love of our Bridegroom will minister to you as much as it did to me,


Finding Joy In The Midst Of Sheltering In Place

There’s a boatload of emotions that I’m hearing people express. Physical symptoms aren’t the only thing covid 19 has brought with it. People are struggling with feelings of loneliness, despair, frustration and depression. Believers and unbelievers alike are wrestling with a lot of painful emotions. How do we process this in light of the cross? Aren’t the fruits of the Spirit love, joy, peace, etc.? Isn’t God the Restorer of our souls? Then why are we still in pain?

For decades, I felt like a victim of painful emotions. Depression, anxiety, despair and loneliness. I had tried so many times to fight back, but every time, I found myself knocked back down, with my face in the dust. Finally, I decided it was easier to not hope than to have my hopes dashed again. So I decided to just stay in the dust. The enemy walked over my back, and I decided to let him. I stayed there until I could no longer compartmentalize the despair. It began to leak out everywhere. I longed for death so the nightmare would end. Heaven seemed to me the only solution to end the pain.

Things began to change when our daughter and her husband asked their small group to pray that God would heal me of depression. Hope came back into my heart. Hope that I could break free of depression on this side of eternity. Once again, I stood up and began to fight back. This time was different through. I didn’t look to human reasoning to protect me from painful emotions. I began to recognize that this was a spiritual problem. And spiritual problems need spiritual solutions. 2 Corinthians 10:4 says,

“We use God’s mighty weapons, not worldly weapons, to knock down the strongholds of human reasoning and to destroy false arguments.”

What are these weapons? We have a number of them…the name of Jesus, our testimony, etc. But the weapon that I picked up to fight painful emotions was the word of God. Ephesians chapter 6 teaches us about the armor of God. Beloved, we have got to get dressed for warfare. Verse 17 tells us tells us to:

“Put on salvation as your helmet, and take the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.”

The word of God is a power weapon of choice when we need to resist depression, loneliness, despair, and feelings of emotional desolation. When we speak the truth from God’s word, we come into agreement with truth BEFORE we feel it. The feelings will follow IF we persist UNTIL feelings that disagree with God’s word dissipate.

If you are weighed down with depression, anxiety, despair and loneliness, you are under a spiritual attack.

God has made a way for us to experience the fruits of the Spirit. We are still going to encounter heaviness, fear, rejection, loneliness, etc. These things still exist in the world. But...we do not have to let these feelings abide in our hearts. Nehemiah 8:10 says,

” Don’t be dejected and sad, for the joy of the LORD is your strength!”

Why did Nehemiah tell the people this? It was because it didn’t come natural to the people of his day any more than it comes natural to us. We need to reach out and take hold of that which God has made a way for.

So, what is the first step? How do we do this in practical terms? My first step in resisting depression was to find my sword. I sought out some Bible verses that I could use whenever depression would begin to settle on me. I’d pull out my index cards where I’d written my verses. I’d read them, ponder their meaning and speak them out loud. When I did, the depression would leave. It might come back 5 times that day, but every time I’d pull out my verses and use them. Over time, those negative emotions began to come less and less. I always knew when I’d overcome the spiritual attack when my emotions came back to the place of well-being. It was in this place where I experienced the fruits of the Spirit. I experienced joy, contentment, peace.

If you’re looking for your “sword,” I’ve included a few that were helpful for me. May you never give up hope. May the joy of the LORD be your strength today. May you KNOW that you will never walk alone, for our Emmanuel will NEVER leave you or forsake you.


“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41:10

“A father of the fatherless, and a defender of the widows, is God in His holy habitation. 6God settles the lonely in families; He leads the prisoners out to prosperity, but the rebellious dwell in a sun-scorched land.” Psalm 68:5-6       

“I will be glad and rejoice in your unfailing love, for you have seen my troubles, and you care about the anguish of my soul” Psalm 31:7               (The Hebrew word for soul is “nephesh.” Our soul includes our whole self, our emotions, passions, desires and appetites.)

“The Lord is gracious and compassionate, slow to anger and rich in love. The Lord is good to all; he has compassion on all he has made…The Lord upholds all who fall and lifts up all who are bowed down…You open your hand and satisfy the desires of every living thing. Psalm 145:8-9,14,16

“The Spirit of the LORD God is on me; because the LORD has anointed me to preach good tidings to the meek; he has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives, and the opening of the prison to them that are bound; to proclaim the acceptable year of the LORD, and the day of vengeance of our God; to comfort all that mourn; to appoint to them that mourn in Zion, to give them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; that they might be called trees of righteousness, the planting of the LORD, that he might be glorified.” Isaiah 61:1-3

“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9

“But the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace…” Galatians 5:22a

“He heals the brokenhearted, and binds up their wounds.”  Psalm 147:3

“God, who comforts the depressed, comforted us…” 2 Cor. 7:6

“…God has said, ‘Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” Hebrews 13:5

“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.” Deuteronomy 31:6

Finding the lure of pornography hard to resist? Here’s Why:

The lure of pornography isn’t just rooted in human desire. It isn’t rooted in some low ranking demonic tempter either. It is rooted in demonic temptation, but it’s by a demon of high rank in Satan’s kingdom. Not every believer has faced the specific temptation of pornography, but if you’ve ever found yourself up against this level of spiritual warfare, you know how intense it can be. It’s not something you overcome by human reasoning. It isn’t something you overcome by a strong will. This is a spiritual battle, so we need spiritual weapons and spiritual “armor” if we’re going to stand.

I’m just going to be blunt. There’s a time to just say it, and the time has come for us as a Church to speak. Let’s talk about what demonic spirit is behind this. It’s the spirit of Jezebel. I am NOT saying that everyone tempted by this spirit IS a Jezebel. PLEASE, PLEASE HEAR ME! I’m addressing the spirit that is coming against us as a Church. The Bible talks about this spirit in Revelation 2:18-29:

To the angel of the church in Thyatira write: These are the words of the Son of God, whose eyes are like blazing fire and whose feet are like burnished bronze. I know your deeds, your love and faith, your service and perseverance, and that you are now doing more than you did at first. Nevertheless, I have this against you: You tolerate that woman Jezebel, who calls herself a prophetess. By her teaching she misleads my servants into sexual immorality and the eating of food sacrificed to idols. I have given her time to repent of her immorality, but she is unwilling. So I will cast her on a bed of suffering, and I will make those who commit adultery with her suffer intensely, unless they repent of her ways. I will strike her children dead. Then all the churches will know that I am he who searches hearts and minds, and I will repay each of you according to your deeds. Now I say to the rest of you in Thyatira, to you who do not hold to her teaching and have not learned Satan’s so-called deep secrets (I will not impose any other burden on you): Only hold on to what you have until I come. To him who overcomes and does my will to the end, I will give authority over the nations – ‘He will rule them with an iron scepter; he will dash them to pieces like pottery’ – just as I have received authority from my Father. I will also give him the morning star. He who has an ear, let him hear what the Spirit says to the churches.”

The greek word for immorality in this passage is “porneía.” It’s where we get the word pornography. It involves the surrender of any type of sexual purity. It involves sex outside of marriage, adultery, incest, and prostitution. In the physical realm, it affects our relationships with people. In the spiritual realm, we commit “adultery” against God (idolatry) when we tolerate the spirit of Jezebel. Satan’s agenda is to tempt us to defile ourselves through sexual immorality. He knows that when we do, we set ourselves up to be disciplined by God Himself. We actually set ourselves up against God when we yield.

How to Overcome the spirit of Jezebel:

This spirit has many markers, or indicators that enables us to recognize when it’s attempting to operate. If you’re facing spiritual warfare against this spirit, you’d be wise to learn to recognize those markers. You may not be tempted by the same markers as your spouse, child, friend etc. But I believe we’ve ALL encountered temptation from this spirit in one way or another. To learn more about this, go to:

If you have tolerated the spirit of Jezebel, repentance is needed if you’re going to overcome it. If you’re like me, this might not be a “one and done.” Learning to not yield to this spirit is a process. As we’re conformed to the image of Christ, we to learn to stand. There’s grace for the journey when we come with sincere repentance when needed.

The third way we overcome the spirit of Jezebel is by staying dressed spiritually. Ephesians 6:10-18 says,

Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Stand firm, then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the saints.”

We simply cannot expect to stand if we’re uncovered. We need more than to just acknowledge that the armor of God exists. We need to practice “putting it on.” An example of this would be “putting on the belt of truth” by telling the truth. Agreeing with and holding to truth even when it costs us dearly.

An earthly warrior wouldn’t think of going to the front lines without his weapons and his armor. We as believers shouldn’t either. We cannot afford to take off our spiritual armor. Ever. For more on this, go to:

Finally, if you’ve done all of this and you still feel like you’re losing the battle against the spirit of Jezebel, call in reinforcements. This spirit comes against churches, and the solution sometimes takes corporate agreement.

I remember one time when this happened to me. I had done everything I knew to stand. I’d quoted scripture, I’d worshipped, etc. But the warfare was so intense that I could hardly lift my head up. My husband recognized my need and called a few believers to join in praying with us. It was like someone flipped a switch. What felt like a spiritual hurricane stopped. Spiritually, it felt like the sun came out and I was able to stand.

One tactic the enemy will use to keep us from corporate agreement is shame. It takes courage to share our struggles with others. It takes vulnerability. We can feel open to attack. Psalm 34:5 says,

Those who look to him are radiant; their faces are never covered with shame.”

This is our position in Christ. We need not fear shame. We do, however, need to use wisdom in who we’re vulnerable with. Look for someone who is motivated by love, not shame, when you share your struggles. This takes risk. We may get hurt when we put ourselves out there. If you do, then learn from it. The next time it happens, take a chance with someone else. Ask yourself, “Who do I trust that doesn’t shame others for struggling with temptation?” Then talk to that person.

Beloved, we have been given authority over ALL the power of the enemy. (Luke 10:19) We are seated with Christ in the heavenly realms, so we look down on every evil ruler, authority and power. We do NOT need to be intimidated. Jesus Christ has given us His shield of victory. Let’s press in to know Him better. May the strength of the LORD be yours today,


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“Do you want to be healed?” John 5:6

We all go through times of discouragement, and maybe even of despair. But to live in that place, refusing to be comforted, is to deny the victory and hope Jesus Christ offers His people…victory He won through the cross. We can choose to stake ourselves to depression, despair and discouragement. Some do. For many years, I did too. As believers, we don’t have to. Jesus came to give us life, and life abundant. The fruits of the Spirit are ours for the taking; they’re part of our inheritance. We CAN live with love, joy, peace, and all the rest of the fruits of the Spirit. We might have to reach out and take these things. We might have to fight for them. But they are ours. Jesus placed them within our reach.

I had to get to the place where I was willing to endure the suffering that change took. I figured I was suffering anyway, so why not suffer on a journey to wholeness instead of suffering with no end in sight. It’s easy to believe the lie that if we’ve tried and failed to take hold of joy, that it just isn’t possible FOR ME. But all things are possible for those of us in Christ Jesus. (Mark 9:23) It is for freedom that Christ set us free! (Gal. 5:1) Past defeat does not guarantee future failure! We might stumble and fall along the way, but even as we do, we’re learning to walk. Just like a toddler learning to walk, we’ll get a little further the next time we try. Until finally, one day, we’re walking!

May the joy of the Lord be your strength today,


““The Spirit of the Lord God is upon Me,
Because the Lord has anointed Me
To preach good tidings to the poor;
He has sent Me to heal the brokenhearted,
To proclaim liberty to the captives,
And the opening of the prison to those who are bound;
To proclaim the acceptable year of the Lord,
And the day of vengeance of our God;
To comfort all who mourn,
To console those who mourn in Zion,
To give them beauty for ashes,
The oil of joy for mourning,
The garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness;
That they may be called trees of righteousness,
The planting of the Lord, that He may be glorified.” Isaiah 61:1-3

“But I tell you who hear me: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you…If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even ‘sinners’ love those who love them. And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even ‘sinners do that…But love your enemies, do good to them and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High…” Taken from Luke chapter 6

How To Find Healing After A Church Split Part 2: Seeking God’s Perspective

Young couple being in a conflict in the park.

You may be standing in a pile of church rubble, asking yourself, “What just happened?!?!?! How in the world did we get HERE??? How did we find ourselves divided against long time, trusted friends? You may be desperately trying to put the puzzle pieces together in your own mind, but they just don’t fit. Questions like, “If we’re all believers, why can’t we all just get along” may be ruminating in your mind. Continue reading

How To Find Healing After A Church Split Part 1: Taking Time To Grieve

Lonely man standing on cracked asphalt floor with illustrated cracked broken heart symbol. Point of view perspective used.Are you silently suffering from the aftermath of your church being torn in two? It was many years ago now, but the memories burned a painful yet necessary lesson into my heart. I wish I could say that I was blameless in what happened, but I can’t. My intentions were good, but I was blind to the fact that I played into the enemy’s hand. Continue reading

God Or Fear: Which Will We Allow To Guide Us?

Peaceful woman relaxing at home with cup of teaWe all have many choices before us…will we return to Church? Will we go to the gym? How about returning to the office? Fear of covid 19 screams for our attention. The question is, will we give fear the power to guide our decisions? Don’t get me wrong. We all need to use wisdom in what we do and where we go. Something will guide our decisions. If fear of sickness is something you’re struggling with, you’re not alone. Continue reading